Not a lot scares me. I will try pretty much anything once. I squash my own bugs. I do my own stunts. Of course, I’m apprehensive about some things. I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t feel that way from time to time. Yet, I only have two real genuine fears. The first is dying young like my mother. I’m afraid I won’t get to see my children into adulthood; that I won’t get to see them become decent people and productive members of society. My second fear builds off the first. I’m afraid for the safety and security of those I love, especially my children. I’m afraid something will happen so that they will not reach their full potential. That second fear has many addendums to it. The fear they will be injured or killed. The fear they will make poor life choices. The fear of war or global societal collapse that would prevent my kids from reaching their goals in life.
Over the past few years, I have added yet another addendum to that second fear. I fear for my son and how society is and will treat him because of his gender. Over the last 20 years and certainly over the last year, it seems like being born male is the worst thing that can happen. Our society seems to have a bullseye on anything and everything that has to do with being male. As a mother of a boy and a girl, I am not okay with this. I expect, no scratch that, I DEMAND, both of my kids, regardless of their sex, get a fair shake at life. I have been wrestling with this topic since I started this blog last November. I have a lot to say on the issue. So much to say that I’ve written at least 10 blog entries only to delete each one and start again. I have done research, gathered quotes, read other blogs and think pieces and I still couldn’t find the right words. Then I read an article posted on the Today Show Facebook feed that said everything I wanted to say but somehow could not. I applaud the author, Nadine Bubeck, for having the guts and voice to speak out and say what needs to be said. I’m begging everyone with a child to read what she wrote.
Regardless of political or social leanings, if we truly want equality for EVERYONE we have to stop building up one gender/race/orientation/etc. and tearing down the other. Didn’t we learn this stuff in kindergarten? Be nice, treat everyone with respect and clean up your own mess? It shouldn’t be that hard people.